People in society tend to listen long enough to each other,
in order to induce their own response.
How often have you truly sat and listened to someone speak during a one-on-one conversation?
Listening can be a challenge for some individuals, as they are constantly standing at the edge of a response. How well are we communicating with those in our lives? Do we really listen to our co-workers, spouse, children, or even strangers that we encounter throughout the day?
The next time you have an opportunity to converse with someone... anyone... I challenge you to actually listen to them intentionally, without the need to respond. During this exercise, actively connect with their eyes, so that you can engage in a way that many times we neglect to do.
As you listen to their words, you may notice body language that tells a deeper story than the ideas they are portraying. Perhaps, you see them struggle to say something, and you realize that their words do not match the meaning behind them.
If you were to ask your child how they made out at school today, and they simply said a fading, "Fine" as they sulked across the room, active listening may have told you something more of what was going on. This would have allowed you the opportunity to press further, to make sure they were truly okay, rather than shrugging it off because all your brain heard was the word, "Fine". When we don't pay attention enough, we miss what is being expressed by other's overall demeanor.
When we are sharing communications with those around us, it is imperative to put down the phone, turn away from the television or computer screen, and give the person our full attention. Our social media society is lacking in their ability to focus on what is right in front of them in reality. Instead, we find ourselves immersed within a digital world, and our attention is split, so that we aren't really in tune with those around us.
If you are looking to truly re-engage with the people in your life, try making eye contact and giving them 100% of your attention during your conversations. You will find that simply connecting with someone on an eye level, and removing all other distractions from your immediate attention, will help you foster an extraordinary connection. This real type of engagement is lacking on all fronts in our society today and we are paying a bigger price than we currently realize. A inherent breakdown in all communication systems will be the final result, if this continues to be a trending habit.
I encourage you to try active listening immediately, and see the difference in how you relate to those around you. You may not only gain an insight into someone's meaning behind the words they use, but you might also pick up on emotions that are never spoken out loud.
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