Most relationships that encounter problems seem to focus on the “who is to blame” element.
This is not only destructive but is also an action that usually leads to more problems than solutions.
Have A Look At The Entire Situation
Being the “bigger” person within the equation, would allow the individual to take on the responsibility of acknowledging some change is needed, and that the change should ideally start with the individual itself.
Being prepared to accept that some of the fault does indeed lie at the individual’s “feet” is a step in the right direction. Taking the time and effort to explore the various reasons and actions that had a part in contributing to the current negativity of the relationship will help the individual realize that there is really no benefit in placing the blame on everyone and anyone else.
Successful recovery of a damaged relationship will be off to a good start when each person involved is willing to change for the better. This should be the main focus of the exercise as changing for the better will always be more helpful that will eventually become so normal that the individual will no longer look upon such an exercise as something forced or unfair.
The positive changes will also help the individual become a better person, thus making the overall situation more pleasant and easy to improve upon. It is also almost always easier to change oneself rather than trying to change the other party in the relationship.
Changing oneself does not require the constant maneuvering of another person’s physical and mental control. Concentrating on being a better person and a more loving and caring partner will also encourage the other party to respond in an equally positive manner thus successfully allowing the relationship to improve for the better.
Relationships are hard work and anyone who says otherwise is not really committed to making it for the long haul. Along with the hard work there are also times of great joy and fulfillment, but when this is not forthcoming for quite a while, then, it is time to seek some outside help.
Reading as much as possible on the subject would be helpful. You may find forums online that are similar to the ones the individual is going through and suggestions from others could be applied or at least tried. Sometimes it would be helpful to know that there are others that have gone through the same situation and that it is possible to overcome it successfully.
Being open and honest about what issues are within the relationships are important. Keeping the lines of communication flowing, so that neither party is bottling their feelings, which ultimately explode at some inopportune time is vitally crucial.
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